do u ever feel like you’ve accidentally tricked certain people into thinking you are smarter and have more potential than you actually do and do you ever think about how disappointed they’ll be when you inevitably crash and burn
Fun fact: Impostor Syndrome is ridiculously common among high-achievers, particularly women. If you identify with this post, odds are pretty good that you’re exactly as smart as people think you are, and the failure you’re afraid of isn’t inevitable at all.
and don’t forget this is one of the psychological barriers placed in by thousands years of patriarchy and male supremacy.
My computer science professor actually talked about this on the first day, it was really cool.
Fun brutal fact: in addition to the existence of imposter syndrome, being “twice exceptional” (also known as 2e) is also a thing. That means being intellectually gifted AND ALSO having a disability that affects your ability to succeed at study or work. Such as ADHD, autism, dyslexia, dyscalculia, etc etc etc. A lot of people believe that it’s not possible to be both, but it very much is.
Society tends to have very high expectations for how well gifted people will perform. Society tends to have low expectations for how well disabled people will perform. Society tends to attribute invisible disabilities, including mental illness, to a failure of willpower or effort or a bad attitude.
So if you read this post and went “no, but seriously, this is not just low self esteem on my part, people keep thinking I’m smart and then I keep crashing and burning and disappointing them and they can’t understand why I didn’t live up to their expectations, it happens again and again and when I tell someone how I feel and ask for help, they just tell me to stop being so hard on myself and that I’ll succeed if I have more self-confidence,” it is not just you.
(Also, one of the previous posts in this thread buried the lede a little. Imposter syndrome is ridiculously common in people from underrepresented groups in academia and other high pressure/high status fields, particularly women and people of colour. Maya Angelou did not only feel out of place because she was a woman.)
This essay also totally changed my view on the intersection of impostor syndrome and mental illness.
PAY ATTENTION! This is how you weed out the men who deserve your time and the ones that don’t. These dudes are literally telling you who they are, but y’all refuse to listen. Your safety comes first.
I’m in a FB group where dudes 30 and older were having full tantrums over this post. These are the same guys that admit:
Not deleting nudes post break up
Not believing when women that were sexually assaulted
Not believing sex with a partner that is sleeping is rape
Etc.
Please do not date people that take issue with your protecting yourself.
That woman prolly saved her life the only reason u would be that uncomfortable with if you were planning to do something bad. Ive personally asked for a guys license and took his pic and sent it to like 3 people and he didnt have a problem with it only date men who dont have a problem with it
You were told that you had no right to feel the way you did, or that you actually felt something completely different from what you knew you felt.
You were told that you had done something you couldn’t remember.
They denied saying or doing certain things
They claimed certain situations had never happened.
Things in your house/room were manipulated or misplaced (example: vanished documents, unlocked doors, open windows, missing belongings…) while you were gone, then you were accused of being forgetful and disorganized.
You were accused of not perceiving reality correctly.
Whatever happened – you were always at fault. No matter if fights, problems at work or unsatisfying relationships.
They put words in your mouth and twisted your words.
You were accused of not behaving/dressing/speaking right.
You were told that you were not qualified for tasks you knew you could do.
They made other people believe of you what they believed, so you couldn’t turn to anyone or ask for help because everybody would just agree with them.
Only you know their true face.
Each of these has happened to me many times over the years with my abusers. What about you?
If you are nonbinary and you want to pass as a binary gender, whether its the one that matches your agab or the other binary gender, you are valid.
If you are nonbinary and you want to look androgynous so people don’t know what to think of your gender, you are valid.
If you are nonbinary and you want to be visibly gnc/androgynous/nonbinary, you are valid.
If you are nonbinary and you change your appearance to pass as both binary genders at different times, you are valid.
If you are nonbinary and you change your appearance to sometimes pass as a binary gender and sometimes to be visibly gnc/androgynous/nonbinary, you are valid.
If you are nonbinary and you change your appearance to sometimes pass a both binary genders and be visibly gnc/androgynous/nonbinary at different times, you are valid.
If you are nonbinary and you just have your own style and aesthetic and don’t care about your gender presentation, you are valid.
No matter if it is your preferred presentation(s) or for your safety, how you choose to present yourself is a personal decision, and presentation or appearance does not determine gender.
If you’re someone who wants to make original stuff for people to see, DO IT!!!
Your worth as an artist is not determined by the number of Tumblr notes you get. Followers are NOT a currency. Don’t worry about instant gratification, because you’re creating something only you can own for the rest of your life! It will take you longer to build up an audience around something that doesn’t have a pre-loaded fanbase. In fact it’ll probably take longer than you think, but you’ll have a much more satisfying artistic career.
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